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Africans may likely differ in culture and opinions but mostly have the same expectations once a man and a woman come together to form husband and wife. The least expectation is production of offsprings, this is considered as fruit of the womb or gain of every single marriage.
The bride gradually loses her prestige and honour after years of being married without a child. Life is likely to become so terrible, the home begins to turn to oven either from the promising husband, his family or both. The bride’s family usually embrace calmness and patience not because they are less concerned, but may be because the victim is their daughter and how on earth will they be victimizing their blood.
A lucky bride will have her husband’s backing, defending their plight, making live easy for her, seeing the delay as their problem not her problem.
Groom’s mother is usually seen as the architect of the victimization, do we have to blame them?Every one pray for a successor. At the same time, many believers hold that God giveth child,(Oluwa nise Omo), He bestows child at His will most especially when medical reports might have proven that both husband and wife are medically fit, so making life easy for the couple believing that their time will definitely come over.
Many occasions, after years of waiting, the husband consider the choice of second wife, retaining his first woman for the sake of the love prevailing between them and some times divorce become necessary, as tall expectations sickens the heart.
At times the choice of second wife may serve as a breakthrough for the first wife, resting on the popular Yoruba saying, (Ori Omo lon pe Omo waye) the birth of a child births another.
Is every delay a natural phenomenon?the researchers are of the opinion that delay are of two types, the Natural and Artificial Delay. Artificial in the sense that the woman in question has complications in her womb; perhaps through series of abortion or abuse of drugs while in her series of promising relationship.
However, delay may results to barreness, if victims fail to seek medical solution on time possibly in the name of faith and fate. Check yourself, is your delay Natural or Artificial? Take the necessary step on time.
It’s indeed necessary to be conscious of our act when growing, any decision(s) that may lead to regret in future are expected to be avoided. Unwanted pregnancies should be avoided by unnecessary sex, prevention sometimes is better than cure they say, hence the need for adequate protection of your future.
Abdullateef Zakariyah Olawuwo is a Broadcast Journalist at Federal Radio Corporation of Nigeria, Harmony FM, Idofian.
He can also be reached at Adekazola48@gmail.com
